In the article, “6 Powerful Ways to Turn Setbacks Into Opportunities” by Cindy Lamothe, I was struck by the following part:
Self-confidence takes the biggest hit after a setback, but there’s a way of lessening its impact. In his book Option B, renowned psychologist Adam Grant makes a case for counting one’s contributions instead of blessings.
In doing so, you’re reminded that what you do makes a difference.
Rather than ruminating over lost achievements, refocus on self-compassion. This involves confronting any adversity you face without judgment and recognizing that no one is infallible.
The idea of “counting contributions” really struck me. I have noticed that when I am frustrated or struggle, being grateful for what I currently have is important. But I also have seen that helping someone at that moment has a much more significant impact on my mood and well-being. According to the “Mental Health Foundation,” helping others is also good for our health:
“…evidence shows that helping others is actually beneficial for your own mental health and wellbeing. It can help reduce stress, improve your emotional wellbeing and even benefit your physical health.”
Like anything, if we focus too much on others and not our self, it can lead to emotional fatigue. But one strategy I am going to incorporate into my life is when I am struggling, I will reach out and share a moment of gratitude that I have for someone in my life. Not only could it make an impact on someone else, selfishly, but it can also help with our personal health.
Source: George Couros