To complain is an intransitive verb that means to express unhappiness, describe symptoms, and protest. The synonyms are protest, criticize, grumble, whine, carp, find fault, nag, nitpick, make a complaint, and or object. The antonym is praise.
As an educational leader I hear complaints from some students, staff, and families, but certainly not everyone. The scholars on the playground complain that their classmates did not get off the swings after a loud and deliberate count of fifty. Staff will complain about the demands of the job, each other, and the expectations from the government, state, and district. Families complain about their student’s struggles as a scholar, an action taken by a teacher, and decisions made by the principal.
Indulging in the art of complaining, especially to my close friends and husband is something I have also done.
Yesterday, in a workshop called Mastery and Leadership I heard this statement, “a complainer is a chicken with a need.” For example, in a whiney voice say,” it is really cold in this room,” and then in your normal voice say ‘I am cold will you turn up the heat?’
Just imagine an educational environment or school site where the big and little people, who spent time there, stated what they needed or made a request rather than complaining.
In the future when I hear a complaint, a nag, a nitpick, or a protest I will say, “this sounds like a complaint rather than a request, how can I help you?”