Giving Advice

The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right. Hannah Whitall Smith. 1902

During conferences with parents, in conversations with staff, and in counsel with students I am put into a situation where I will give advice.  This advice comes from my life experiences, education, and perceptions of the world.  I probably should never give advice.  But the truth is that I do and often think it is pretty good advice.

What is important for me as an educational leader is after sharing “my wisdom” is to let go of the results.  I honestly do not know what is best for another person in every situation.  If someone does not take my advice it is not because they do not like me or respect me. Becoming overly invested in the information I share or what others do with it is not helpful to anyone.

It is my hope by sharing my experience that I will make a connection with this person and build a partnership.  My desire is not to control the end results or be in charge of another person’s adventure, lessons, or dreams and certainly not to “set them right.”