All I Have To Do Today is Smile!

So I read a very good book recently that has forced me to take a deep look at how I spend my days…I looked at the routines and the habits that are so engrained in my day to day approach to my work that I don’t even give them a second thought anymore. The book, The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, has thankfully stopped me in my tracks, and has pushed me to think critically about whether or not there are some habits in my life that need to be changed, and some default decision-making routines that need to be questioned. After about a week of reflecting, I’ve decided to make a couple of changes, and to form a new habit or two…these small but powerful shifts have already changed my days for the better, and have allowed me to more clearly focus on what’s really important to me in my job.

 

The first habit that I’ve broken and changed has to do with how I spend the first 30 minutes of my day. Before last week, the first half hour was all about meetings, or trouble shooting the issues and emails that had come my way the day or night before…the first 30 minutes was all about looking at fixing problems and putting out fires, and it didn’t allow me to really notice or appreciate the absolute magic that is the beginning of a new day. I was missing all the smiles and all the joy that comes along with the excitement and the promise of a new day at school, and I was not starting my days in the right frame of mind. So last week, I decided to spend the first 30 minutes of every day being a smile hunter…looking and listening for joy, and beauty, and laughter, and excitement, and smiles, which as it turns out, are everywhere, all the time, and screaming out to be noticed. I decided to count the number of times that a child or a child’s actions made me smile as they arrived off of the buses, and I’m sure it’s not surprising to you that I lost count before the first minute of class even started. It was overwhelming to see kids literally skipping to class, and holding hands with their friends, and excited to show off their science projects, and talking about how well they played in their soccer game the day before, and completely prepared to crush a summative assessment that was coming their way, and genuinely thrilled to get started on another day of learning. I walked back to my office after touring my division for 30 minutes and I was smiling from ear to ear…my new first 30 minute routine or habit has now become the best part of my day, and I’ve found that the belly laughs that I inevitably find on my smile tour stay with me, and keep me constantly searching for the small and beautiful moments that make up my day at work. It reminds me of one of my favorite Paul Simon lyrics, which goes, “All I have to do today is smile”, from the song, The only Living Boy in New York…and if you get down to the core of it, what else do you really have to do with your days? I’m wondering how many of you are in routines that have you focusing on something else besides the beauty of your kids, and if you’re starting your days without feeling overwhelmed by it all, then maybe it’s time for you to change your habits as well.

 

The next shift that I made had to do with the association that students have with being sent to the Principals office. From as long as I can remember, being sent to the Principal’s office has been a negative experience in the eyes and minds of kids, and used as a source of consequence and punishment by teachers. Teachers have traditionally sent students to the office for bad behavior, or for disciplinary reasons, and it has been no different in the schools where I’ve been a Principal. I’m usually sitting at my desk when student walks through the door and I’m immediately put in a position of bad guy…ask a kid if he wants to be sent to the office and you know the answer that you’ll get. Well, that all changed last week and it’s been amazing! I told my faculty to stop sending kids to my office for bad behavior, and to start sending kids to my office to be celebrated. On Thursday and Friday of last week I had over 20 kids walk through my door with huge smiles on their faces, and super proud to be sent to the office…I celebrated them, and I hugged them, and I sent them back to class with a feeling of pride and accomplishment…now kids are clamoring to be sent to the Principal’s office, and it’s become a badge of honor instead of a badge of shame. I still deal with disciplinary issues of course, but I do it in a different venue, and outside the confines of my office walls. I’m challenging you all to help me with this important shift…send kids my way to be celebrated, and if you’re at other schools around the world, surprise your Principal by sending celebrations through his or her door…If you’re a Principal reading this, then think about your own habits and routines in your school…this is a shift that will change your days for the better I promise.

 

I was a very happy person before I read this book, and it was rare that you’d find me without a smile on my face because I love, love, love what I do…but these two shifts have truly allowed me to focus on what I find most important in my work, which is to seek out the beauty of our students and to celebrate them for being the amazing young people that they are. There is so much beauty in the run of a school day that it will make your head spin…change your habits so you allow yourself the opportunity to revel in it…schools are the most beautiful places on earth if you open your eyes, and get in the habit of smile hunting. What do you have to do today? All I have to do today is smile! Have a wonderful week everyone and remember to be great for our students and good to each other.

Quote of the Week….

I love those who can smile in trouble, who can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection.

—Leonardo da Vinci

 

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business – Charles Duhigg

http://charlesduhigg.com/the-power-of-habit/

Inspirational videos to make you smile…

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R9STI37rRQo

http://www.upworthy.com/this-guy-just-won-the-uncle-of-the-year-award-and-its-not-even-close?c=tpstream

http://www.ted.com/talks/thomas_suarez_a_12_year_old_app_developer

Inspiring articles about Teaching…

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/vicki-cobb/the-gift-of-a-gifted-teacher_b_4527614.html

http://www.pleated-jeans.com/2013/08/28/22-teachers-caught-being-awesome/

http://teaching.monster.com/careers/articles/7666-15-reasons-teachers-are-great

11 Comments

  1. Hello,
    My name is Sarah Sanders and I am EDM 310 at the University of South Alabama. I love when you say “There is so much beauty in the run of a school day…schools are the most beautiful places on earth if you open your eyes”. I completely agree with this statement and can not wait until I receive my degree and can be in this utopia full time! I support what you are doing with the principals office connotations. In my opinion, praise has a far better effect than discipline and in many cases can prevent the discipline from occurring in the first place! I am sure down the line of my career I will have days where I come to school looking for fires to put out. However, I hope to remember this post and refocus my attention to my students and their happiness!

    April 12, 2015
  2. Amy Brill said:

    Love that I can keep learning from the wonderful Dan Kerr even when we’re on different continents. Thanks for keeping me smiling Dan!

    April 12, 2015
  3. Jennifer Parker said:

    A great read! Thanks for sharing your experience and recommendations!

    April 13, 2015
  4. Ken Darvall said:

    Why not vice versa? Count how many times you put a smile on the faces of others (students, staff, parents, visitors)?

    April 13, 2015
  5. George Petrusma said:

    Great thoughts and practices! Love them! Those ideas give great leadership to setting a tone and to teaching people that 90% of living is attitude and 10% is circumstances. A couple other ideas that I have employed under the umbrella of “leadership by walking around” is to be in the halls when children and teachers are settling back in class. Connecting with people around topics like how the morning or recess went communicates that people are more important than paper. At the school where I presently serve, I ensure that I am out front every morning and every afternoon. Talking to students, parents, and staff about a variety of things keeps the door open to my office, communicates that I am interested in who they are as people, and teaches that kindness and respect are two hallmarks of the school community. I can always find a piece of paper to move, but not always the opening for a significant contact. The time and priority choices we make as principals reflect a set of values. It is always a juggling act with what needs to get done from a management perspective; and in my 32 years of experience, I have always seen all necessary items complete by the end of the school year.

    April 13, 2015
    • Dan Kerr said:

      Thanks for this George…I appreciate the shot of perspective, and you’re right…what needs to get done will get done. Thank you for taking the time to comment and share…made my day!

      April 14, 2015
  6. Lynn Douglas said:

    Your comments put a smile on my face, Dan. The best compliment I had when leaving my previous school came from a Grade 6 student who said, “Mrs. Douglas is always in the hall smiling, asking us about our day and about our weekends. I will miss that smile. I know she cares about us in school and even our hockey games.”

    At my new school, I have tried to be that smiling person finding the smiles of others. But as I read your message Dan, I realized that I have slipped into morning email and office time problem-solving. You have inspired me to dedicate that first 30 minutes to my students and staff and finding the smiles! Thanks for your inspiration!

    April 13, 2015
    • Dan Kerr said:

      Thank you Lynn for responding…that’s the best part isn’t it…watching how kids respond when they know you care…I love seeing that

      April 14, 2015
  7. John Switzer said:

    Excellent advice Dan! We need to catch more students being good. Students want to know that you care before they care what you know.

    Cheers from Zurich!

    John Switzer

    April 14, 2015
  8. Cynthia said:

    Dear Dan,
    I LOVE this article. It is a true reflection of you — the positive, upbeat, caring guy I remember from JIS. Thank you for bravely sharing your perspectives through this blog. I hope many others will read and contemplate. Keep writing…
    All the best,
    Cynthia

    April 16, 2015
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