Thinking Out Loud

The other day @BostonHistory posted a link to a blog which said that educators need to ask themselves the question, would they want their child to be in a class that:

“1. A majority of the instruction is focused on memorization and recall
2. If the teacher uses a single textbook for history and does not teach multiple perspectives”
There was a whole list.
I responded that the real question is what we as educators do when we answer NO, we wouldn’t want our children in this type of classroom.
However for me the questions took on a different meaning and resonated with me because what if the situation was that your child was in such a class and You

the parent/ educator taught in the same school.
Over the years my family and I have lived in different communities almost always my children where in the same school where I taught. I wore many different hats; I was a teacher, sometimes an administrator, and parent all at the same time.
To be honest I believe I was not always the best advocate for my children.
For those that have read my blog posts before you know that I tend to take a less confrontational approach,this at times is probably one of my weaknesses, but here as well I learned some valuable lessons as an administrator and as an educational leader. None of what I am saying is new but at times I need to remind myself that even though in the short term I may not have helped my children I believe in the long term I not only helped them but others as well.

1. Pick your battles – At times you may win a battle but lose the war
2. You gain more by being supportive and trying to help than you do when you confront someone
3. You need to teach and lead by example
4. You can only get people to grow and change when they trust you- You first need to develop a sense of trust

Thank you for letting me think out loud



  1. I agree with the importance of trust and the idea that you gain more by being supportive. This is always my first approach. But it doesn’t stop there. When I see that my support and coaching are not leading to change, I am directive. You sort of know in your gut when you see things that you cannot let continue.

    October 7, 2010
    • I agree 100%
      The real issue was at times I may have had an issue as a parent with a teacher that was not in my division and I had to balance my role as a parent vs my role as an administrator (but not that teachers direct supervisor). The patience and the approach I took in those cases helped me when dealing with teachers that I did supervise. But I agree with you that at times as both an administrator and parent you can’t let continue.

      Thank you for your comment

      October 7, 2010
  2. Lyn Hilt said:

    Akevy, you make some great points. I agree that without trust, there is no foundation to build a relationship. I also appreciate your point about leading by example. So important, especially in the work that we do!

    October 7, 2010
    • Lyn,
      Thank you for your comment and your kind words.
      I am a big believer in that we need to practice what we preach and often the best route to helping people change is by modeling the behavior we want.


      October 7, 2010

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